Homeschooled through High School:

College Bound by Age 12!

Those of us who homeschool or who have been homeschooled through high school know that IT IS VERY Possible.  But how? Many parents and students look towards high school with fear and trepidation instead of being joyous as to how far into the journey they have come. I realize that families homeschool for a multitude of reasons and that each family is unique, but questions still arise when the words high school are mentioned!

But what about COLLEGE at age 12? Is that even a possibility? YES, the Harding Family will share that it is very possible and very possible for more than one child in the family!

Having sent six kids to college by the age of 12, hopefully what we have to share regarding transcripts will we helpful.

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Weathering the Storm

As a homeschool mom it’s so rewarding when that first child graduates from High School. It’s a mix of emotions that span the entire year. It’s the end of a 12 year journey. It’s the celebration of 4 years of High School where you’ve worked and planned carefully to get your student to the next part of their life. We had a lovely high school graduation celebration with friends and family. My daughter had been accepted into her top choice college with their highest merit scholarship. We had done everything to prepare for the next transition…college. But nowhere had I read about how rocky this transition might be for my daughter. She had lived on her own in New York City 5 weeks the previous summer. We all felt very confident with her transition into college. But as Taylor shares below how, for many young adults that first semester at college is tough.

You have written your essays, sent your test scores to colleges, and received your acceptance letters.  The invitations have been sent out and now you are finally walking down the aisle in cap and gown (literally or figuratively).  High school is over!  A whole new exciting world is about to open up, extending its welcoming arms towards you with the promise of adventure.  What could possibly go wrong?

I must admit, this was exactly my mindset as I flew across country to study at my dream school.  Of course I had some fears.  As a small-town girl moving to Los Angeles, I was bound to have some fears.  Would I get along with my roommates?  Would I be capable of balancing my new school schedule?  Was I doomed to keep a constant diet of ramen noodles?  These were all normal questions to have and I prepared accordingly.  I had college cookbooks, binders, dorm organization supplies, and even some new clothes.  What I quickly figured out was that no amount of research could prepare me for the storms ahead.

When heading off to college, everyone is more than happy to give advice on everything from budgeting money to making friends.  What no one talks about is the fact that you are about to have everything you know taken away from you, and this can leave you feeling lost.  Living in a big city was nothing new to me.  I had already lived in New York City on my own for over a month the summer before my senior year. I always had an incredibly independent and ambitious streak, itching to leave my hometown.  Consequently, I must admit I was a little confused by the feelings I was experiencing my 3^rd week into the semester.  I was experiencing sadness and anxiety without clear cause.  I felt overwhelmed by my courses, even if the homework wasn’t strenuous.  The scariest part was I didn’t even know who I was anymore.  My hair and outfits never seemed to look right.  I became increasingly clumsier. And, all those cooking skills I had worked so hard on flew out the window, making the ramen diet a brooding reality.  I felt like a complete mess.  Throughout the day, I was battered with thoughts like “What am I doing here?  Everyone else is doing so much better than I am.  Maybe I made a mistake.” 

For someone who has always had such clear ideas about their future, this self-doubt was more than a little terrifying.  No one told me college would feel like this, so, clearly, something was wrong with me.

I called many people back home and everybody said, “You are doing fine.  Stick with it.”  Clearly, though, I was not “fine.” 

Finally, I stayed after class to speak to a teacher, trying not to cry in front of him.  I told him everything.  He squinted at me for a while, finishing his coffee.  Finally he asked, “Taylor, how old are you?”  

“19.” I looked at the floor. 

“Exactly,” he replied.  “You have no idea what you are doing.  You don’t even know what ‘19’ is about yet!  You are far from everything you know.  You are with new people in new classes in a new city. You don’t know anything, but you are figuring it out.  Everyone is.  What’s my point?  Cut yourself some slack.”

I felt oddly better.  He was right.  I didn’t have to know everything.  I was going to make mistakes and struggle.  What an amazing thought!  I was allowed to fail?!  I was stunned. 

I don’t want to give the impression that this conversation wiped away every storm cloud, but it gave me the courage to stay and not feel ashamed of my fear and confusion.  Slowly but surely, I got myself together. The discouraging thoughts echoed less and less.  I began to feel proud because I didn’t turn back. I weathered the storm, and made it successfully through the semester. 

A couple months after I talked to my teacher, I encountered two other students who were feeling exactly how I was!  Whether you are in the storm now, or about to take the plunge know that it is coming.  It is one of the most incredible and gratifying experiences, but also one of the scariest.  Don’t give up.  You will be ok and if you weathered that first semester/year transition. And, I know that you will be used to reshape the world as only you can.

One thing I’ve learned as a homeschool parent is the importance of encouraging strong family and friend connections during those high school years. Your son or daughter will need them as they transition from High School into college. Those people in their lives are sources of advice, support, and encouragement. They are cheering your child when they have good days and bad.

I’m so thankful we built strong family bonds during our homeschooling journey. I think it helped during this time. I am ever so thankful for our extended family and friends who offered Taylor encouragement during this time and well. Mostly, I’m thankful for the words her teacher offered her that day. His encouragement was a huge turning point for her that semester.

Hi! I’m Taylor Nieman. I grew up in Central, IL where I had the opportunity to homeschool through High School. I graduated in May 2012 in a ceremony surrounded by friends and family who have and still offer me encouragement and support. The opportunity I was given homeschooling gave me time to focus on my passions-acting, singing and dancing.  I’m currently attending my dream college, AMDA, where I’m working on my Acting BFA.

 

Hi! I’m Leah Nieman. I’m a wife, homeschool mom and Co-founder of CurrClick.com. My husband and I live with our 2 children in Central, Illinois. We’ve homeschooled since 2001. I’ve been using eCurriculum and other forms of online educational resources in our home since 2002.  I juggle family life, homeschooling and work while trying to keep it all balanced with the amazing love and support of my family. It’s somewhat of a learning curve and I find it’s always a work in progress.

 

 

 

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A Vision for Homeschooling High School

Many of us who are on the precipice of homeschooling high school started this journey when our children were very young. We have already been homeschooling a long time, but are nervous about navigating the high school path. Some of us are at the beginning of this journey and have chosen to pull a teen out of school and are beginning the homeschooling journey with high school.

No matter how long you have been homeschooling, you need a fresh vision when you begin high school with your teen. Without a vision for the high school years, a mom can quickly become consumed by fear and doubt, not to mention stress.

A vision for high school grounds us and gives us confidence to keep moving.

So how do we find this vision?

When I began my homeschool journey fifteen years ago I went through a process with God. Years before, I had been involved in a summer of culture studies. One of the things we learned was “envisioning.” Envisioning is a process of picturing the end—sort of an imagining of where you would like to end up. Once you have this picture of where you are going, you can plan your route. So at the beginning of our homeschool journey, I felt God leading me to first envision where we were going.

I began with reflection and prayer. The next step was to begin envisioning what I desired my children to be like at the end of our journey. What sort of people did I think they would become? What lifestyle and characteristics did I want to impart to them? What kind of character would they have? What will they love? Where will their giftings take them? I thought through these things for each child. Then I knew where we wanted to go and worked backward from there to plan our course of action.

This proved to be such a wise place to begin. Of course, all God’s plans are. {grin} The vision that God planted in my family through this process proved to help me navigate the maze of learning styles and curriculum choices without losing my sanity.

Then we reached high school…

This plan I had mapped out was set into motion when my oldest child was five years old. Now that he was beginning high school (a decade later) I wasn’t so sure that I still had a clear picture of the route he should take. It was time to reassess. I revisited the envisioning process and asked God to give me a fresh vision for his high school journey.

I am so glad that I reassessed at the beginning of his high school years! I was feeling a bit overwhelmed at the thought of how to prepare him for college and studying his field of interest. A fresh look at his interests, his talents, his giftings, and where God may be calling him really helped me to begin to see how to guide him down his path.

We all need this fresh reflection at the outset of the high school years—whether we have been homeschooling for 9 years or 2 years. The high school years are important, and they are so much different than the years preceding them.

Your time with your high schooler will be much more productive and much less painful if you have a vision not just for homeschooling… but for homeschooling high school.

“Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.” Proverbs 29:18, KJV

If you would like to find out more about envisioning and forming a vision for your homeschool (whether you’re just beginning or reassessing at the beginning of the high school years), grab a copy of my ebook, Finding Your Vision: Beginning (or Continuing) Your Homeschool Journey With the End in Mind. The book walks you through the process step by step. It is free for subscribers but you can also buy the pdf version if you would rather not subscribe.

If you are looking for support for homeschooling high school, check out the HomeSchool High Link-Up that happens at my blog every Friday or join the HomeSchool High Support Facebook group.

Connie is the wife of a bi-vocational, associate pastor and momma to five children. She has been home educating for 14 years and is still trying to figure out how to keep up with highschoolers and grade schoolers (K & 5) at the same time. She writes about all things homeschooling momma at the daisyhead. Connie also does blog sponsorship consulting to help other bloggers form a partnership with a brand they love and navigate the waters of getting conference sponsorship. In her spare time, she runs a knitwear design business and blogs about her creations at DaisyHead Creations. You can also connect with her on Facebook and Twitter.

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